What Could Be the Realistic Value and Position of Erection and Sexual Intercourse in Men's Sexuality?(James) Chin-Ti Lin, MD
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Welcome to return to www.ezEDmax.blogspot.com - How to Optimally Treat Erectile Dysfunction (ED)?
As promised in the first post in which I lay out my plan to deliver a series of articles detailing with the realistic approach to ease and solve the dismay caused by erectile dysfunction (ED), now I begin to write and share my thoughts resulting from my 34-year study and practice in medicine and urology with a special interest in ED.
Today, we will discuss the realistic value and position of erection and sexual intercourse in men's sexuality.
First, let's face reality.
In men's life, no man would want to lose something he has liked and even indulged most. To continue enjoying the pleasure and gratification from sexual intercourse and orgasm is one of those things with this nature and probably, the most common one, but maybe least mentioned due to being a very personal private matter and the embodied embarrassment.
When ED strikes and its subsequent embarrassment follows, the affected men may go berserk, dismayed, and even mad. Stop worry. Here, I will help the men under such mental and emotional stress and siege to untie the tight node of confusion and disappointment from ED's attack.
Common sense has constantly taught us, if we allow it to do so and delver to us, that:
- Life is a one-way street of accumulation, modification, and continuation from inception to eternity; this helps us know who, how, and what we are.
- Life is a process of constant struggle to cope with reality, certainty, and uncertainty of daily living for survival, growth, and continuation to last; this makes us become more willing to deal with daily life head-on.
- Despite the constantly touting medical advance, in reality, medical professionals have never really cured anyone yet. At most and best, just help patients modify their inside and outside environments with behavioral modification by implementing healthy lifestyle as well as with medical practice by applying the currently available knowledge, skill, technology, medication, common sense, and a tad of wisdom at a reasonable time in a reasonable way to a reasonable patient. So, an optimal self-healing process may take place to optimally restore the impaired function of the affected organ and system, but very unlikely going back to its previous state. This will guide us to effectively adjust realistic expectation and accept personal responsibility.
Dear readers. I hope you would not be turned off by my stating the truth and facts of life.
Known to you, I'm just a physician practicing medicine to help you, not a magician playing tricks to entertain you, but a messenger bringing the truth and facts of life to you for your scrutiny and judgment.
My good intention is to be honest and true so we can walk out of the shadow and control of political correctness and commercialism. I really try hard to help you with substance beyond medication, surgery, sweet talk, and sympathy and I'm surely confident that I can help you with empathy and action if you allow me to do so.
To effectively tackle the problem we confront, another common sense comes and tells us: If we seriously wish to solve the problems confronting us, the first step to take should be our courage and willingness to realize, understand, and accept the available truth and facts of life.
To follow this line of thinking, let's open our mind to suck in the available truth and facts about our ability
to achieve erection for sexual intercourse in men's sexuality to our heart.
So, let's realize the course of life.
Generally, all humans have constantly pushed the envelope of limitation from their birth to around age 30, when they reach the peak of mental and physical ability and capacity. After 30, their physical durability
will expectantly and gradually declined with variable pace, largely depending upon personal lifestyle.
As you may recall, while at age 20 or 25, if you are tired from overwork or overexertion, all what you
have to do is sit down and close eyes for a nap or rest of 5-15 minutes and you will quickly feel so refresh and ready to go again. After 30 and onward, we will need to take longer and longer for such recovery.
As well, the capacity of performance will also gradually decline in a fluctuating one-way direction until the arrival of eternal permanent departure.
Now, let's realize the expected change in achieving erection and performing sexual intercourse.
Following the same pattern of expected change, the ability to achieve erection and perform sexual intercourse takes a similar route of change over time. That is why men would need longer and longer time
to restore their ability and capacity for achieving erection and performing sexual intercourse again after enjoying a run of intense personal intimacy with sexual intercourse.
Besides we need to remember that sexual intercourse is a physiological process of very heavy mental and physical drainage.
So, in order to have something to drain, we have to store a sufficient amount energy and ability ready to
be used and drained at need. Therefore, after a run of drainage, we will take longer time to recuperate
from sexual exhaustion.
In a sense, as we age, we gradually become like an old battery which requires a longer time to recharge but would never be up to the high level when it's new. At its use, an old battery will lose its steam and energy faster than the new.
Knowing these, men will be more realistically willing to accept the facts that they need to decrease the frequency to engage in sexual intercourse. If personal overindulgence and obsession overruns such reality, such men will experience ED even though they may be just still okay.
So, slow down and do it less often than while you're at younger age.
Besides knowing the physiological change as explained above, it would be useful to look at a bigger picture of the function of erection and sexual intercourse.
That's what is the primitive function of erection and sexual intercourse?
Another aspect of sex life is to realize the real value and position of sexual intercourse in men's life, which inevitably changes and evolves over time. In young age, to achieve erection for sexual intercourse is the must and essential for making and producing natural babies, that is, procreation.
As men age, its importance gradually evolves, change, and eventually become more and more optional.
This statement may offend some folks' mind. But I swear this is true although it may not be what you want, like, and love to hear, instead, surely is what you need to hear.
In fact, on the course of life path, we all gradually and insidiously give up something we possess in our young age, intentionally or unintentionally, knowingly or unknowingly. We all do. For example, we would not be able to walk or run as agile and fast as we used to while we age, although healthy lifestyle can or may effectively slow down that undesirable trend. This is just one aspect of life reality.
Likewise, such a realistic change has been taking place in all our tissues and organs beneath the skin as
what you may have observed and noticed the change of the smoothness, texture, or wrinkles on your face.
So, the working ability of men's sexual tissues and organs can not be exempted from this natural change of aging, which may go down at various pace, faster or slower, chiefly depending upon personal lifestyle. A healthier lifestyle can do wonder for us so we should implement Universal Healthy Lifestyle at any given moment of our daily living no matter who, where, how, and what you're now.
Outside the internal fundamental things and reality about men's erection and sexual intercourse as discussed above, we also need to take a look at what is going on around us.
Here comes the discussion on political correctness and commercialism on our daily living and, of course, on sexuality.
Day in and day out, in every corners of our daily living, we're constantly bombarded by the message from all kinds of media to brainwash and hypnotize the unguarded public: How wonderful sexual intercourse can be like we have nothing to do in life but sexual intercourse all day long by sex experts and R- or X-rated movies or videos; how magical medications such as Viagra, Levitra or Cialis can
be for men by companies' paid commercials.
In real life, few exceptional elderly men being able to maintain their ability to get good erection and perform sexual intercourse do exist but not the norms for most of men.
As to using medication, its effectiveness largely depends on how much functional deficiency in sexual tissues and organs has been developed and accumulated. In its early stage, these drugs, generically called PDE-5 inhibitors or phosphodiesterase type-5 inhibitors, may do wonder for selected men who have no medical contraindications to use them.
As the impairment in sexual tissues and organs advances, in time, the effectiveness of such drugs will gradually fade and eventually stop to work because these drugs are only able to bridge a certain gap of functional deficiency. At age goes on, the functional gap widens, at certain point, beyond the drug can
bridge over, so we're confused to see the medication is not working anymore.
How is the impact of movies and videos on men's expectation in their sex life?
Quite a bit. What are shown in these visual media often mislead many men to fantasize that men can have vigorous sexual intercourse forever.
Remember those professional performers in sex movies and videos have been well trained and prepared as their full-time way to make a living at certain time of their life, and the amateur actors of similar genres would shoot the related movies and videos either for fun or for gaining fame in time or for some other unclear reasons.
For average Joe, that will be in a entirely different story. So, don't let the excitement from viewing those carry us away too far into unrealistic fantasy land.
So, take cautions.
Both political correctness and commercialism have fuzzed up well the original real face of the truth and facts of our life to serve their hidden agenda for earning your trust, liking them, and transactions.
In other words, both constantly brainwash and entice us through hypnotically manipulating our unguarded mind of greed, ignorance, anxiety, and fear with all tactics of power, mental or physical, political or administrative, and with all disguises of deception. That is why the business and sales of many still unproven and unregulated herb preparations and even dangerous means or tools or gadgets to stretch the penis continue to flourish out of control.
Of course, we know: Behind what we know always hides a lot of what we still don't know. So, how do we handle these uncertainties? I would suggest to stop their use or use them in moderation with care if you have money to spare.
Occasionally, I have seen few men swearing how wonderful the secret multiple vitamins they take can be. Under such circumstances, I just said I would not argue with the "facts", but still take them with care and don't use them over-jealously.
In summary, the first step to take for managing dissatisfaction in life is to realize, understand, and accept the available truth and facts of life and go head-on to deal with any potential calamities that we may confront. Then, we will have a best possible realistic control over our daily life and capture the better sense of comfort and control. That will make us more contained and happier with supporting truth and facts of life, not with political correctness.
For the time being, if you would like to explore further on how to handle ED realistically and effectively, the book I wrote, "Perfect Sex for men & for the women who love them" could be a very useful resource for you to check out.
Soon, I will discuss the next topic as listed in the first post of this Blog. Stay tuned.
(James) Chin-Ti Lin, MD
January 25, 2014